Collaborations

Sometimes you need people to pull stuff out of you that you can't pull out of yourself.

As a university professor, I am accustomed to pushing my students to work harder than they ever thought they could. I write comments on their work that get them to think differently. Some of them resist it and those people would be wrong. But the ones who take the advice and consider what I am saying see a marked improvement.

I was talking to a friend today and her husband about a project that they're pitching that's very niche. He was arguing a bit about what's working. And I said, "Did you sell it? Then it's not working." The buyer has to know exactly what they're buying. And that can be an idea or a promise. It doesn't have to be a clear story per se, but they need to know what they think they're buying. And if it's not clear, you need to make it clear. I was getting a lot of push back from him because he felt he knew better. At some point, you have to say, "Fine." It's not worth arguing over who's right because ultimately this is not my project.

In our workshop for my play, my director Jen and I have a great back and forth. I totally trust that she knows what she's doing because I've watched her do it well. She's got a gentle way and I trust the results she gets. So I get out of her way. We talk privately. We have a lot of the same approach to things. That collaboration is easy because she makes some notes, I do the work and I bring results. It's really that simple. Jen pulls stuff out of me without being hostile or demanding. I think her strength as a director is that she cares so much and she's specific. But she's incredibly gentle. And looking at the work I did - four drafts in two weeks - is incredible. I work really hard for Jen because I know she's great at what she does.

With the TV project I'm working on now, I get a lot of encouragement from my collaborators. Sometimes I can't believe they like everything they like. But it lets me try things. It doesn't make me afraid that they're going to hate something. I have the normal anxiety that we all have. But I don't have any worries to show them something. I have been stuck all week on the beginning, middle and end of the first season of this show. Today something cracked. I just started with the first thing and the last thing, which I knew. Then I started writing more about the beginning and then I got to a place where I thought we'd end that first third, which is about nine episodes. Then I figured out the math to get to 26 episodes. If we did 9+9+8, that would be 26. But if we put the 8 in the middle, then we'd have the start as 1-9, the middle as 10-17 and the end as 18-26. I figured out some story for the middle that started to lean into the break that I knew was happening at the last third. Once I started playing around with the math, the story started to appear. I wouldn't say it fell out. But I definitely wasn't as mentally constipated as I had been all week. It started to be regular. I have a lot of work I want to do over the next two days. We're going to meet hopefully on Tuesday. But I have a full structure to the season, which I didn't have before. I printed out the 7 pages I worked on and now I'm done for the night.

I can go into Saturday and Sunday knowing that I can build on what I have. But I have a structure to the pitch. It's remarkable how much work went into just the seven pages I have so far. It will be a bit longer and I will revise what I already have too. Now I can recharge my own personal batteries and go somewhere and get some work done tomorrow and Sunday.

Good collaborations can lift us up and make us better. And when things are not great, well...those aren't people we should be collaborating with. But that's something we learn over time. My collaborators are keeping me on my toes, that's for sure.

My intention is growth.
My intention is to work.
My intention is to be open.

I am grateful for my collaborators.
I am grateful for the time it takes to get work done.
I am grateful for how hard the work is to do.

Tastemaker

I remember being a kid and feeling like nothing I did fit in to anything going on around me. I loved TV guest stars and the Fall Preview of TV Guide and Barbra Streisand and the artists Marcel Duchamp and ManRay and the band Lone Justice. I was a strange little kid who didn't live in a world of his design.

I walked into the Coach store at my local outlet last week. Or what I thought was the Coach store - it was actually a pop up store for the entire Coach x Keith Haring collection. I thought I had walked into my childhood and I didn't understand why the whole world hadn't wiped out the store since everything was 70% off. I went another time last week to exchange something and then again this morning at 5 AM for Black Friday. The store was still pretty much intact. But that says everything about the world I live in and the world that everyone else lives in. I thought it was kind of amazing that the store wasn't ransacked. The first time I went in the store, I talked off the ears of all the employees because I couldn't believe it. I bought Christmas gifts there for everyone on my list. 

That kind of says everything about my life. The world and I are not always in sync. When I walked by the main Coach store at 5 AM, there was a line to get in. Yes, the whole store was 70% off, which is amazing. But the quality of some of the stuff there was not as good as what I got. There's a wallet there that is a version of something I bought six months ago for $40. The version they had was a bad copy of the same design - I'm assuming they couldn't use the exact same design because they didn't want to do a reissue. Anyway, that's neither here nor there - except it is.

I became a writer so that I could rewrite things that happened in my life exactly the way I wanted them to be. I'm doing that right now with a play I wrote that I'm producing with my theatre company. I wrote a play I wanted to write in the style I wanted about my family. I finally wrote a play that represents me in every way. And now I have a theatre company that wants to produce it - and because I'm a member of that company, I can have control of the vision of the play along with my director. But I have a voice.

I'm working with two producers on a project right now that I find very exciting. A producer brought me an idea for her to be in. This is someone I've worked with before and who I like very much. I took that idea and expanded it. She and her producing partner loved it. I worked on it more - and the expansion seems to be something everyone likes. We had a conversation earlier this week about the project. That conversation led into another conversation about the kind of room we'd want. And the kind of production we'd want. 

A lot of people believe you have to visualize something in order to manifest it. Visualize and manifest are big words out here in Hollywood. 

As we were talking, we started discussing our philosophy of having people of color and women as a mainstay of the production on every level. And our commitment to mentorship. I have to say that I haven't heard a producer talk that way before. At least not someone I had direct contact with. I've heard Ava Duvernay say it and Ryan Murphy and Jill Soloway. But I haven't had someone I work for say that to me. It was said to me in a meeting on a show that I really wanted to staff on by someone who walks the walk. 

I realized as we were talking that everything this producer was saying was everything I believe in. This led me to something that happened two years ago. I met for a job as a literary manager at a theatre in Portland. And I convinced myself that this job would be good for me because I would be a tastemaker. I could help other people of color get their voices heard in the theatre as an advocate. The truth was that I really didn't want to be an advocate in this way. I wanted a job and I was trying to convince myself that I was okay with it. But of course my heart wasn't in it and I didn't get the job. The best thing that happened was that I spoke the truth about who I am. And they didn't want it. It was the first time that I was made aware that I brought my full self to the table and it got flatly rejected - so that must mean that they are a wrong fit. I used to think that everything I didn't get would have made my life worlds better and that I fucked up by not getting it. I got a bad vibe half way through the interview process, which was a whole day of interviews. I knew they didn't want me and that I was getting a trip to Portland out of the deal. 

But that world TASTEMAKER stuck in my head. Then I got my first TV writing job six months later. And then I was asked to join a theatre company. And that made me a tastemaker because I'm given some decision making ability in choosing writers we put in our writers group and projects that we do. Then because of working on the show for two years, I met this actress who started a production company and wants me to develop the project that she'd star in for this company. And then I would have a real opportunity to affect change and be a tastemaker. So the goal was for me to be a tastemaker and once that goal showed itself, there were better ways the Universe was going to make me a Tastemaker.

But that's the world I want to live in. The world where I am hiring other people of color in my Writers Room. I am giving an opportunity to someone who has never been in a room - just like the opportunity I was given. I want gay people in that room. I want women and people of color in that room. I want a white guy in that room to witness how this operates and to go back and run his own rooms that way when his time comes. I want everyone to run rooms this way when their times come. That's the world I want to live in. 

I know that I want a Paleo option on every menu we order from. I know that I want Le Croix in the fridge and Larabars and couches. I know what time I want to start and what time I want to end. I know the kind of schedule I want to keep. I know the kind of showrunner I want to be. I want a room and an experience that reflects my taste. 

I want to be a Tastemaker in Film and TV as well as Theatre.

My intention is to be a Tastemaker.

My intention is to stand firm in who I am.

My intention is to collaborate.

My intention is to inspire.

My intention is to do the work.

I am grateful for real collaborators whose values reflect my own.

I am grateful for the appreciation I'm being shown.

I am grateful for the open heartedness.

I am grateful for the care being taken.

I am grateful for true friendships in and out of Hollywood.

I am grateful for love and compassion.

Playing the Part of You in the Play About Your Life

I actually did this yesterday. I didn't want to, but my director insisted that I play the part of the character based on me for the first rehearsal of a workshop we're doing. And I resisted because I thought she might be trying to convince me to play the part for real. I am not an actor. There's no way I'm doing that. A few people have said that might be a great idea. And the actor playing my father was trying to convince me to do it before we started the reading. I said no to everyone. Now, you might think this lady might protest too much.

But here's what playing me in the story of me did for me yesterday. It helped me get inside the play. It helped me understand the world I was building in a way I hadn't before. It was actually an exhilarating experience if I'm being completely honest. I had a lot of fun with it. Now it's different to go from that to performance. I don't want to be in it for a variety of reasons. One being that I've got other things to do and I don't want my schedule to be tied into being in a play. But I do think the audience needs to be on this journey with someone else. I think watching me go through it every night would be rough. It also changes the dynamic of the play a lot. I like the distance created from someone else in the role. Now, it would be really hard to get that energy. But someone could study me in rehearsals. I know I've got a special energy, but that doesn't mean I should do this one man show with five friends thing.

Those things happened to me. So it all feels incredibly real. I didn't think I was acting as much as channeling and taking myself back to that time. And I could have taken myself further. But I don't necessarily want to have to go through it night after night. Let someone else do that because it's not reliving their life. They would be faking it in the best possible way. I would be reliving a difficult time in my life.

It allowed me to own parts of myself though. It allowed me to own my story and own my anger. It allowed me to own who I am. And an exercise in owning who you are is a great thing. It opened me up to being okay with who I am. And that's still something I struggle with on a daily basis. That's just the process of embodying myself.

My intention is ownership.
My intention is to value.
My intention is to lead.

I am grateful for the productivity I've experienced in the past few months. 
I am grateful for the opportunities that are being presented.
I am grateful for what is being manifested in my life.